How To Let Guys Know You're Into Rubbers
When people are first getting to know each other, there is often a question of whether or not they will want to do the same things in bed. Most of us have developed
Further Important Considerations
A major reason condoms fail to prevent disease is because people wear them sporadically particularly during the first year of use. Condoms never give a person anything but protection, pleasure and increased peace of mind. So WEAR them EVERY TIME!
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A major reason condoms break in the gay community is our love affair with oil lubricants. Condom manufacturers say that any type of oil animal, mineral or vegetable destroys condoms rapidly. The problem is that the liquid latex is not cured in the same way to make condoms as it is to make dildoes, cockrings, rubber maids uniforms etc. When a guy tells you his penis is so big that it splits condoms as soon as he puts
them on, you can be 90%
sure he's bragging or using
oil lubricants and blaming the condoms.
A rubber only covers the penis and therefore only protects the penis and what it touches. Unfortunately this is not enough protection against AIDS. Infected body fluids that get into cuts, abrasions, ingrown hairs, pimples, bleeding gums or other broken skin may spread the disease. So be sure to check yourself and your partner out to avoid unnecessary risks. Consider putting band-aids over small problem areas as partial protection as a gentle reminder during sex.
Try taking off used rubbers with Wet Ones or any of the diaper wipes which also have nonoxynol-9 and alcohol in them they're hell on the virus. Also clean up using Hydrogen Peroxide from the drugstore diluted to 1 part peroxide and 10 parts water this destroys the virus too.
I hope the above information has been helpful to you. It is, of course, only a port of entry into the land of latex. Talk to others, read more and experiment for yourself. It takes time and persistence to become a rubber man, but the protection and enjoyment are well worth the effort.
effective ways of figuring this out so that sex goes smoothly. Adding rubbers to the list is simply an extension of the same process. So begin by reviewing the ways you now use to get and give what you want in bed and see which of these techniques you might also use to introduce condoms. Then be creative. Thinking up new ways to incorporate rubbers into sex play can be a lot of fun and sexy too. Here are a few additional suggestions.
Communicate with partners about your desire to use rubbers before you start having sex, when possible. Verbal communication is ex-
tremely helpful. Be honest about your feelings. If you are nervous, embarrassed, inexperienced, say so! It gives you room to experiment and lets the other person be honest too. If you use condoms regularly, and are excited by rubbers, say that too. It gives your partner(s) a chance to ask what you see in rubber, share their own tales of latex delight or deal with negative feelings, doubts, and fears before you're in the middle of sex.
Some people have an extremely hard time talking about sex or find it does not suit their style or fit into a particular sexual encounter. You can communicate nonverbally by conspicuously putting condoms near the place you have sex. You
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could have a copy of this issue on the coffee table or some other place that's handy. You could also buy or make a leather arm band that holds condoms and wear it when you cruise. Or you might simply take one out, open it and put it on yourself or your partner.
Some people find being very direct the best way to approach condom use. You can say such things as "I do it with condoms, how about you?" or "If we do it, here's the rubbers." You can also break the ice by saying "Do you use this brand of condoms? I like 'em a lot!" Or you might say, "I bought some different kinds of rubbers the other day and would like to try them out. Are you into it?" If this gives you a
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